“How could you possibly understand?!” Mothers, daughters, communication and friendships…

“Things were different when you were young” says my daughter when I try to share my “wordly wisdom” with her.  I watch, from a distance, as she turns into a young woman. I watch her friendships come and go, or change.  I feel her heartbreak when her “BFF” decides that she has moved onto someone new.   I remember how the power struggle works between girls, deciding which girl they will “follow” or which group they aspire to “join”.  I try to provide her with advice that has been formed over many years and through learning from many mistakes. I try to shield her from the hurt my mistakes caused me. I try to save her feeling regret at the harsh words that come from our mouths when we lash out at someone who we feel has hurt us. I try to teach her that people don’t always say how they really feel and that often her friends are hurting just as much as she is, but are too scared to show it.  I try to tell her to be the better person when her friends are saying bad things to her or about her.   However, like many generations before, my daughter tells me that I “just wouldn’t understand”.

Slow down! It’s your choice to be so busy!

We all have at least one (or more) friends who, no matter when you run into them, they almost always tell you how “busy” they are. I know I have been guilty of this myself…”Oh, I don’t know where the time goes!” I say as I start to rattle off the long list of things that seem to be taking up my time at any given moment. Often, if we are honest with ourselves, this state of “busy-ness” is self imposed. Whether it’s driven by demands from those around you, your own FOMO, or your simple inability to prioritise, the fact is, it’s your choice how you spend your time. Continue reading Slow down! It’s your choice to be so busy!

So, you are ready for a change? Here’s how to make it happen.

There comes a time in most peoples’ lives when they start to think about making major changes.  It could be work, career, lifestyle or relationship related, and no matter how flexible or open to new experiences you are, change is never easy.  I find going through the processes below helpful when trying to figure out which direction I should head in my life, I would love to hear others that have helped you…

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It takes a village…How neighbours can increase your happiness!

We all hear references to how times have changed since we were kids. How we could roam the neighbourhood riding bikes and setting up lemonade stands, our neighbours chatted over the fence and our parents could call on someone nearby to keep an eye on us kids for an hour or two while they popped out to do some errands. Sounds great doesn’t it? Well, I am lucky enough to be living that now. We didn’t realise what we were buying into when we purchased our house. Of course, it’s a lovely house in an great location , but little did we know that we also bought into a community. Continue reading It takes a village…How neighbours can increase your happiness!

Why I prefer my friends flawed…

I love when my friends are honest.  They tell it like it is. No one wants to hear a glazed over, polished version of their friend’s life.  A true friend should be there through the ups and downs.  I’d love to hear how others feel about being open and honest with their friends.  It definitely has its risks, but it also can have its rewards.

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